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Dr. Darnell A. Durrah

Psychologist Crafting Compassionate Leadership | Consultant | Podcast Host | Fostering Authentic Connections

Are you a boss or Leader?

Personally, I have an issue with the term boss. I believe in many organizations the word is used extremely loosely.

Additionally, the term and or concept does not lead to cohesion. Rather it fosters compliance. I’m not suggesting compliance is a bad thing either. However, I do believe a boss mentality results in more job dissatisfaction than the satisfaction of employees long term.

Let’s look closer at the word “boss.”

Image from a blog written by Lisa Liebman

As a noun, it means, “a person who is in charge of a worker, group, or organization.”

As a verb it means, “give (someone) orders in a domineering manner.”

Now, the term Leader is defined as, “the person who leads or commands a group, organization, or country.”

As for me, I prefer to be and or work with other leaders. I find it challenging to work with individuals who think they are a boss in an organization. I truly believe this is one of the biggest misconceptions individuals in Leadership have. Falsely believing they have more power than they do. In comparison, a good leader understands that she or he is merely responsible for the results from the area they lead within the organization.

In a state or federal government entity, the real boss is the American people. Please never forget this!

I have been working for over two decades now. One of the first things I always do is read SOPs, regulations, etc. as it pertain to whichever organization. Not once have I ever seen the word boss! In contrast, I have seen the word Leader repeatedly. It is time individuals who have been honored with an opportunity to lead begin doing just that, Leading!

Now, what if more Leaders adopted a Leader mentality vs a boss mentality? Do you think that would change your satisfaction with your current situation? If you’re a Leader currently, which mentality have you adopted?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

9 responses to “Are you a boss or Leader?”

  1. edmund prince johnson Avatar
    edmund prince johnson

    superb explanation for today’s issues regarding the subject matter!

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      1. April Scott Avatar
        April Scott

        This is so true. Bosses are concerned with compliance and people following orders. Leaders focus on development people and setting an example.

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  2. CeCe Bernstine Avatar

    I definitely have a leader mentality, but being low on the totem pole, I imagine it’s easier to lead when you have the boss authority behind you. “Peer leadership is the hardest form of leadership.”
    “Everybody’s bosses til it’s time to pay for the office/til them invoices separate the men from the boys/Over here we measure success by how many people successful next to you/Here, we say you’re broke if everybody is broke except for you/BOSS”
    I’m a boss because I take responsibility and earn the power. I think the resentment comes when people opt for the title instead of the role.

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    1. Dr. Darnell Durrah Avatar

      Would love to hear more about peer leadership being the hardest form of leadership…

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  3. Andre Spicer Avatar
    Andre Spicer

    I love how you broke that down. I agree with you for the most part however, I’d like to add…not all leaders aren’t bosses (which sometimes governs how far or where you can lead) and every boss is not a leader (shamefully). A combination of both is a powerful person.

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  4. Benny Robinson Avatar
    Benny Robinson

    Awesome read sir!!
    Great breakdown and explanation of both boss and leader.

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  5. Kelsey Spinks Avatar
    Kelsey Spinks

    Your article reminds me of the comment made by Brene brown “We desperately need more leaders who are committed to courageous, wholehearted leadership and who are self-aware enough to lead from their hearts, rather than un evolved leaders who lead from hurt and fear.” I feel bosses may fear low productivity, noncompliance, safety risks, and low quality performance. A leader, who may also be a supervisor may be required to maintain accountability of those factors however approach them with a different set of values i.e. integrity, candor, accountability, etc. Accountability encourages productivity, Integrity fosters compliance, candor sets a standard for respectful dialogue surrounding performance. Having a healthy balance of both is a challenge for all leaders considering we are all perfectly imperfect 🙂
    Grateful for your commitment to our community and involving your psychology background and wholehearted personality into our leadership development.
    Great read!

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